Hi there dear Reader! Yesterday I touched briefly on the subject of
discipline so I thought that I would elaborate in today's blog as I saw
something which horrified me yesterday....
.I watched as a mother put up with her small daughter hitting her over and over again..........Now, you may say, monkey see, monkey so, but, no, I know this mother and she doesn't believe in smacking and has never hit the child in her life.......I won't be popular with my beliefs but, I say, smack that child on the bottom. Just one good smack is all it takes! The child will be in such disbelief that they will instantly stop......
My generation were smacked as children.....it didn't do us any harm! We were not abused.....we were smacked......disciplined when we were naughty and it stopped us.....the thought of the smack on the bum prevented us from repeating an action that was deemed to be naughty.....Mind you, we were always very naughty, hence, we received a lot of smacks.....My parents always smacked us on the back of the legs between the knee and the bottom.......holy smoke it hurt! I remember it well......My siblings and I talk about memorable smacking moments when we get together and laugh our heads off at our antics.......My Mum told me once that she ended up in the bathroom herself, crying her eyes out because I wouldn't go to the shop and she smacked my legs a few times and I still wouldn't do as I was told.....subborn little madam I was! We were not damaged by the smack! Our brains formed nicely, thank you very much and we all grew up to become respectful, responsible, loving, caring people and good parents ourselves......
I'm a firm believer in the fact that banning smacking will not and does not stop a
person who is going to abuse a child....they don't stop just before they pound a
child and think to themselves, "Oh dear, I better not hit this child as it's
against the law." Well, so they? Most parents are caring and a small smack on the bottom or hand will not harm a child....Firm, good discipline goes a long way......Look at
what the future generation has become......they don't give up their seats on buses or trains for older people. They push their way through doors regardless of who is in the way! They treat all people including themselves with disrespect....They treat other people's belonging with disrespect.....they are selfish and boorish and boring.....they are so self-centred.....they dis-respect teachers, police and any authority figure...........Oh, it makes me so mad to think of what is to become of our world with people like that in it!
I smacked my children! I remember when my youngest was 18 months old and walking around investigating everything in sight! He developed a fascination for the stereo and
kept trying to rip the stylus out of the record player......I caught him and
smacked his little hand.......he did it again......I smacked his little hand......he did it again......I smacked his little hand.......he never did it again! I didn't smack him hard, just enough to stop him in his tracks, he cried on the last smack, I suspect because he didn't get his own way....he takes after his Mother take way.....subborn! My boys are lovely people and they have respect and are respectful of other people and other people belongings...... they are productive members of society as my generation are.....
Remember Bill Cosby making that record, "My father confused me." One of the funniest records ever and so true.....if you have never heard it, do yourselves a favour and get a copy.........I was guilty of saying the same things to my children, "Come here so I can smack you." or "If you don't do as you are told, I'm going to thrash
you to within as inch of your life". My husbands favourite was, " I'll swing for
you." I never got it for years, must be a Pommie thing I thought, then I realised
what he meant and thought luckily the children never knew he was threatening
murder! But, that's what his parents said to him and probably their parents before them........The words were not meant to be taken literally but we did say some dreadful things.......
My husband tells the stories of his school days and one particular teacher........He used a 12 inch ruler, side on, to smack the boys across the knuckles......One day he told my husband to put his hand out, so he could hit him, with the words, "This is going to hurt me more than it will hurt you." to which my husband replied, "I don't think so, Sir!" So he got a couple of extra because he spoke back to the teacher.......My husband laughs about that now, just as I laugh about what the nuns were like with is, but I keep stressing that it did not harm us.......I know that there are some wonderful and beautiful kids out there in the world who are not like the little shits who get all the publicity and make one despair at the generation so I get only trust that those kids will pass onto their children the values what we were bought up with and that we, as baby boomers have passed on to ours.....
People will come back at me arguing about the physiological damage that smacking does to children and all I can say to them, based on my own experiences is, "What a load of codswallop."
Hi, At 59 I am just finding my feet in the world...So exciting! I have learnt a lot over the years.....gone from being extremely hard up to living a very comfortable life and loving every single minute of it.......My boys are grown up and living good lives themselves and I am so proud of them.......I have the best husband in the world (most of the time anyway....hahaha) and I have 3 dogs who I just adore and they adore me...... I try to live by my motto ......"Be like the sun....let your warmth shine through always"